Sometimes, I think too much about small things. Like if I say something in class, I keep wondering if it sounded stupid. Even if nobody reacts, my brain keeps playing it over and over, making me feel weird. If a friend takes too long to reply to a message, I start thinking, “Did I say something wrong? Are they mad at me?” Most of the time, it turns out they were just busy, but by then, I’ve already imagined a hundred different reasons why they might be upset. It’s exhausting.
I guess I overthink because I don’t want to make mistakes. I want to do everything right, and I don’t want people to think badly of me. But the more I think, the worse I feel. It never actually helps. I’ve realized that when I catch myself overthinking, the best thing to do is stop and do something else. I put on music, go outside, or just distract myself with something fun. Sometimes, I tell myself, “Will this even matter next week?” and most of the time, the answer is no. Writing things down also helps because when I see my thoughts on paper, they don’t seem as big anymore.
Overthinking feels like running in circles, getting nowhere but still feeling tired. I’m trying to remind myself that not everything needs to be figured out right away. Sometimes, it’s okay to just let things be and move on.
This is very common phenomenon, esp in many Indians. We care too much how others would think or react. As long as you didn’t meant to insult or offend others, just don’t mind what others think. Someone may not like if they are not in best of their mood, but why do you care?
You’re absolutely right—this tendency to overthink others’ opinions is deeply ingrained in many cultures, especially in India, where societal expectations often weigh heavily on individuals. The need for external validation can sometimes overshadow personal happiness and authenticity.
At the end of the day, you can’t control how others feel or react. People interpret things based on their own experiences, biases, and moods. As long as your intentions are good, there’s no reason to burden yourself with unnecessary guilt. Prioritizing self-respect and inner peace over external judgment is the key to emotional freedom.